Is My Husband a Narcissist? | Quiz from a Licensed Therapist

Takeaway: My “Is my partner a narcissist test” can help you get clarity on your loved one's behavior. Plus, I’ll share my expert insight on what to do if you believe your husband (or boyfriend, or partner) might be a narcissist.

There's been more and more talk of narcissism in media and popular culture. While increased awareness around mental health is overall positive, certain terms can also begin to lose their meaning when overused and misapplied.

Narcissism is one example. Everyone can act selfish occasionally, so it may be tempting to apply this label anytime your partner puts themselves first. However, narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health disorder that runs much deeper. It can have serious impacts on the affected individual and those around them.

While this quiz isn't a replacement for consulting with a qualified mental health professional, it serves to shed light on common narcissistic traits. This can help you understand whether your husband's behavior may be considered narcissistic or not.

Let's dive in.

Who is this quiz for?

This quiz is for anyone who is wondering whether their partner is displaying narcissistic tendencies. While I use the words "husband" and "boyfriend" as well as "him/his" pronouns here, it can apply to people of all gender identities.

This narcissist test won't provide a mental health diagnosis, and it's not a replacement for therapy. It's also not meant to serve as a crisis resource or resource for abusive relationships.

If you're experiencing a crisis, please contact 988. If you're looking for help with intimate partner violence, please visit this website or contact 1-800-799-7233.

How accurate is this narcissistic husband quiz?

As a therapist, I'm an advocate for free resources (like online quizzes!) to help people better understand themselves and those around them.

With that said, this "Am I dating a narcissist" quiz won't diagnose your partner (or anyone else) with narcissistic personality disorder. Therapists can't provide diagnoses unless they're speaking directly with the person in question and have gone through the necessary steps for an assessment.

After the quiz, I'll provide my recommendations for how to proceed depending on the results you get.

Take my "Am I married to a narcissist?" quiz below ↓

Does your partner display narcissistic traits? My quiz will help you find out.

1. Does your partner lack empathy?

A) No, he usually shows that he understands and cares about my feelings.

B) He sometimes struggles to empathize with my emotions.

C) Yes, he often lacks empathy for how I'm feeling.

2. Does your partner make you question your judgment, feelings, or memory?

A) No, he doesn't usually make me question myself.

B) He sometimes makes me doubt myself.

C) He often makes me question myself.

3. Do your partner's feelings seem more important than your own?

A) No, my partner tends to value our emotions equally.

B) Sometimes I feel like my partner values his emotions more than mine.

C) I often feel like my partner thinks his feelings are more important.

4. Is your husband often preoccupied with status or how others view him?

A) No, these aren't the most important things to him.

B) He can sometimes be preoccupied with status or appearances.

C) Yes, he's often consumed with how others perceive him.

5. How does your boyfriend respond to criticism?

A) He can usually take constructive criticism relatively well.

B) Sometimes he can accept feedback, but other times he struggles with this.

C) He does not take constructive feedback well.

6. Would you describe your husband's behavior as controlling?

A) No, he's not usually controlling.

B) He can sometimes be controlling.

C) Yes, I see him as very controlling.

7. Do you feel like your partner thinks that he is better than you?

A) No, I believe he sees us as equals.

B) I sometimes get the sense that he thinks he's better than me.

C) I often feel like he thinks he's superior to me.

8. Would you say that your partner has an arrogant attitude?

A) No, he doesn't usually come off that way.

B) He can sometimes be arrogant.

C) Yes, he often comes off as arrogant.

9. Do you think your boyfriend would throw you under the bus if it made him look better or helped him get what he wanted?

A) No, I don't think he would do that.

B) Sometimes I feel like he might.

C) Yes, I think he would put me down if it benefitted him.

10. Does your partner have a strong sense of entitlement?

A) No, he doesn't come off as entitled.

B) He can sometimes act entitled.

C) Yes, he often has a sense of entitlement.

Interpreting your results

If most of your answers were C, you may be in a narcissistic relationship.

Remember, this quiz can't provide a mental health diagnosis. However, it was designed around the common symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder, including

Grandiose sense of self-importance,
Preoccupied with power and success,
Believes they deserve special treatment,
Excessive need for admiration,
Takes advantage of others,
Arrogance,

...and more.

If your answers were mostly A's or B's, this doesn't necessarily rule out narcissism. You felt called to take this "Is he a narcissist" quiz for a reason, so there may be other mental health issues or relationship dynamics at play.

A licensed therapist's perspective

While I can't say for certain whether your husband or partner has narcissistic tendencies without speaking with them directly, I'd like to take a moment to hold space for your pain if you're seeking out this quiz.

As a couples therapist in Chicago, I'm passionate about supporting people who are struggling with romantic relationships. When one partner has a mental health issue, or one partner feels rejected or unsupported by the other (or both!) it can cause significant strain on the relationship.

If you're struggling to make sense of your partner's behavior and would like a safe space to process these issues together, I highly recommend seeking out couples therapy. Working with a licensed mental health professional can give you the support you need to better understand each other and find a path forward—no matter what that looks like for your unique situation.

Regardless of how the "Am I living with a narcissist" quiz turned out for you, I encourage you to take your results to a therapist to discuss them further. If you're not ready for couples therapy, working with an individual therapist can also provide you with the support you need to process relationship issues.

If you're located in the greater Chicago area and are interested in working together, I invite you to reach out for a complimentary consultation. My colleagues at SG Therapy Group and I look forward to connecting with you!

Maddie Persanyi, LCPC

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Is My Husband a Narcissist Quiz