7 Practical Tips if you Struggle with Decision Making
Decision-making is an integral part of our daily lives, yet it can often be a source of significant stress and anxiety. As a therapist, I frequently encounter clients who struggle with making decisions, whether due to fear of making the wrong choice, uncertainty about the future, or the overwhelming pressure to find the "perfect" answer. Here are some strategies that might help if decision making is hard for you.
The Best Answer, Not the Right Answer
One effective approach is to adopt the 49%/51% principle. This principle acknowledges that we may never know what the "right" answer is because often, there is no way of knowing. Instead of striving for the elusive "right" answer, aim to choose the best answer available to you. Even if one option is only slightly better, say by 1%, it's still the better choice. This shift in mindset can alleviate the pressure of finding a perfect solution and help you move forward with confidence.
It's Okay to Be Wrong
Accepting that it's okay to be wrong can be liberating. Sometimes, we make decisions that turn out well, and sometimes we make decisions that require adjustments along the way. We are not future tellers or mind readers. When you start doubting yourself, remember that you made the best decision you could with the information you had at the time. This acceptance can reduce self-doubt and increase your confidence in decision-making.
Embrace the Unknown
The future is inherently uncertain, and rather than seeing this as something scary, try to view it as a source of beauty and opportunity. Not knowing what’s to come can open up a world of possibilities and experiences that you hadn't considered. Embracing the mystery of life can make decision-making less daunting and more adventurous.
Absolute Certainty is a Myth
The quest for absolute certainty can paralyze you. The truth is, the moment of absolute certainty never arrives. Life is filled with ambiguities and unknowns. Accepting this reality can free you from the need for perfect assurance and allow you to make decisions with the best information you have at the moment.
Time Spent Making the Decision
The amount of time you spend making decisions should be proportional to the gravity of the decision itself. For significant life choices, it's understandable to take more time. However, for everyday decisions, try setting a time limit to prevent overthinking. When you notice yourself ruminating excessively, remind yourself of the time limit. This tactic is simple but can be remarkably effective in breaking the cycle of indecision.
Decisions Lead to Clarity
We do not "lose out" by making decisions; instead, we get closer to understanding what we truly want and need. Each decision you make provides feedback and insights that can inform your future choices. Even if a decision doesn't lead to the desired outcome, it brings you one step closer to clarity.
Reasonable Mind vs. Emotional Mind
Balancing the reasonable mind and the emotional mind is crucial in decision-making. The reasonable mind is logical and methodical, while the emotional mind is driven by feelings and intuition. Strive to integrate both perspectives to make well-rounded decisions. This balance ensures that your choices are not only rational but also aligned with your values and emotions.
In conclusion, decision-making is a skill that can be improved with practice and the right strategies. By focusing on making the best choice rather than the perfect one, setting time limits, accepting the possibility of being wrong, embracing the unknown, seeking clarity, understanding the myth of absolute certainty, and balancing the reasonable and emotional minds, you can reduce the stress and anxiety associated with making decisions. Remember, it's a journey, and each step you take brings you closer to becoming more confident and decisive.
If decision-making feels like an overwhelming task that leaves you stuck in cycles of doubt and stress, it might be time to seek support. Making choices, big or small, shouldn't be a source of constant anxiety. If you're ready to gain more control and ease in your life choices, contact us today! Let us support you on this journey to a more confident and fulfilling life.
Corinne Bloom, MSW
About the Author
Corinne Bloom, MSW is a social worker specializing in anxiety, depression, emotional regulation, life transitions and relationship issues. She utilizes CBT, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and Psychodynamic Therapy Read more about Corinne here.