How to Increase Self-Esteem: A Daily Exercise
If you are stuck in an unhealthy thought pattern, it may negatively impact your self-esteem. Developing high levels of self-esteem creates a foundation that gives us the power to achieve success in our lives. The relationship we have with ourselves is one of the most important and impactful relationships we can have as people.
Healthy self-esteem can look like:
Sets healthy, flexible boundaries
Effectively communicates needs
Provides validation for themselves without needing it from others
Does not people-please or seek approval
Comfortable with setbacks or the unknown
Recognizes self-worth
Accepts who they are
Feels grounded in their values and beliefs
Clients often ask how they can improve their self-esteem. While I wish there was an easy answer or an instruction manual to follow, it is not that simple. One of the inevitable realities of life is knowing you will have to work - this means work towards your relationships, on your passions, on your goals, and on yourself. The effort we put towards our well-being builds the foundation for self-esteem to grow.
Some of the internal work you can do as a starting place is to keep the promises you make to yourself, discover your needs and wants, and find your voice. The therapeutic process is an amazing way to begin to take these steps.
For a quick exercise to help you start or continue your self-esteem journey, here are three booster questions to ask yourself daily:
What is one thing I feel proud of myself for today?
What is one thing that brought me joy today?
How did I demonstrate one of my strengths today?
Making a commitment to yourself to answer these thoroughly and honestly every day is a great catalyst towards healthy change.
When we allow other priorities to take precedence over our well-being, our self-esteem is impacted. When we have a negative inner dialogue, our levels of self-esteem tend to decrease. When we do not set boundaries at work, with relationships, or with ourselves, our self-esteem falters. It's important to check in with ourselves and reflect on these elements to assess what needs more of our attention. If you struggle evaluating what your inner dialogue, priorities, or boundaries are and taking action to improve them, we are here to support you. Please reach out to schedule a session if this sounds like you may benefit from some professional guidance.
Maddie Persanyi, LCPC
About the Author
Maddie Persanyi, LCPC is a clinical therapist specializing in anxiety, relationship issues, self-esteem, life transition, and trauma. She incorporates IFS, CBT, and strength-based therapy into her treatment. Read more about Maddie here.